Are you ready for your boudoir session?
This is a trick question darling…
I’m always surprised though, how much I hear comments like, “I want to do my boudoir shoot, but I’m still working on my confidence.”
Or, “I have to work through some of my insecurities before my shoot.”
What?? Ladies, this is totally backwards.
I understand where this kind of thinking comes from though. We assume that we need to already feel like a supermodel and have high levels of confidence in order to have our photos taken. That to achieve amazing boudoir photos we have to ‘look the part’ already.
This is simply not true.
I get that it takes some nerves to get in front of the camera…and that it’s easy to make excuses as to why we should wait, but here’s why this thinking is backwards…
You gain confidence and blast through your insecurities by having your boudoir session.
The reason for this? Anytime you step outside of your comfort zone and conquer your fears of doing something your confidence skyrockets. In my 5+ years as a boudoir photographer, I’ve yet to meet a client who doesn’t feel completely amazing after her photo session.
A while back we published a post on the Healing Power of Boudoir Photography. There we explore the idea of boudoir photography being like a form of therapy and how powerful this work is for so many of our clients. (fun fact: Did you know I have my M.A in counseling? My educational background has everything to do with my I chose boudoir as a photographic genre).
No one has all the answers nor is anyone immune to confidence issues. If we wait until we’ve ‘worked through’ our blocks and insecurities then that boudoir shoot will literally never happen.
In fact, my clients almost always schedule their photo shoots with me because they want a confidence boost and because they are working on their insecurities. Not because they’ve already conquered all their demons nor because they’re already 100% confident in themselves. One client wrote on my Facebook page:
“I recently had the honor of booking a session with Lindsay. I had been admiring her art from a distance, each time she was in my area I so badly wanted to book a session, to be a part of that art, to create a story. Some how or another something held me back. Finally I had the courage to unmask myself. I had just hit 30 and figured let me honor the woman I am. It was the best gift I could have given myself. Lindsay has a true gift. As a single mother juggling life as it comes, putting myself on the back burner all while building on my insecurities, Lindsay had a way of me leaving all that behind. From the moment the session started her professionalism shined. She had a vision of every pose and made me feel so comfortable and beautiful the entire time. I had never felt more like a goddess and for that I could never thank her enough. I will cherish our session and whenever I doubt my worth, I have my story to look back on, I am enough!”
The only pre-requisite here to a boudoir shoot is the desire to up your game and the willingness to commit yourself to deeper empowerment and self-love. That’s it! Promise.
The rest of it…the posing, the outfit selection, the skin retouching, the grooming, the “will I look sexy enough” self-doubt…that is all for me to manage as your boudoir photographer. And baaabe, I’ve got you and I’m in your corner.
All that’s required of you is a resounding ‘hell yes’ I want these photos.
Sooo, can I get a hell yes in the comments below?? 😉
Hope to see you soon love,
p.s. Our Miami photo shoots are happening May 15th-18th. Schedule our phone chat to learn more.